You have to be really clear on what you want, truly feel in your body that you deserve them, manifest and believe.
**I wrote perfect partner for you, nor perfect. No one is perfect but there is someone who are perfect for you**
First of all you have to have a look at your perception of men, women, dating apps or this “hook up society”
If you believe that all men are fuckboys or all women are crazy, you will attract fuckboys and crazy women.
If you believe that dating apps are shit, you will not see the good matches when they are in front of you.
When you truly believe that there are tex amazing men out there who have their shit together, love treating their women well and want to settle down, you see men like that everywhere.
Law of attraction baby!
Watch yourself and give it a go!
Grab a pen and paper and answer the following questions.
Sit down, close your eyes, get out of your head and feel in your body, your heart, your soul and your sex centre…
- How do you FEEL when you are with your soulmate/partner?
- What do you bring to the relationship?
- Describe them in 10 words?
- What are some common core values, morals and goals the both of you have?
- How are they with affection, intimacy and in the bedroom?
- How do they communicate?
- What kind of things/activities are you doing together and how does that feel?
- How emotionally available are they and open for growth?
- What kind of parent are they/want to be/don’t want kids?
- What do they have that you are lacking that make you the best couple every?
- What’s the best part of your relationship?
- What will you say when you look them in their eyes and say: The reason I love you most is….
- What do they look like if this is important to you?
Example: Integrity, financial stable, good sense of humor, stable, loyal, confident, caring, humble, spiritual, into kink/bdsm, love sports, have kids already, kind, emotional intelligent, peaceful, morning person, taller than me, good communication, prioritese intimacy, don’t need much affection, intelligent, sense of adventure, has a visa, educated, loves staying in, love eating healthy, honest, can relax and party on the weekend, want to move to a farm in 10 years, accepting, open minded, liberated, clean and tidy, easy going, career driven, dominant, outdoor lover, can challenge me, open for personal growth, vegan, conscious, don’t take themselves too seriously, put family first, independent, transparent, aware of their ego, submissive in the bedroom, loves gardening, don’t do drugs, own 5 dogs….
Have a look at your past relationships that lead to a breakup.
What were the issues? Can you recognise the patterns? What was your responsibility for the breakup?
(Sorry you can’t blame it all on your X and hide the dog poop under the carpet and don’t expect it to start stinkl in your next relationship)
Imagine meeting your dream partner, you don’t want to fuck it up by going back to old patterns.
- Have an honest good look at yourself and acknowledge what you don’t want to repeat in your future relationship. Write that shit down!
- Deal Breakers or what are you not going to tolerate?
Be really clear here, once you have written this down you have a written agreement with yourself and a promise to yourself that next year you will not tolerate this
Trust me, the red flags and signs you ignore in the beginning are the reasons you will leave later. Either it’s after 2 months, a year or after 3 years a marriage and 2 kids.
- Anything else that is important that you are calling in?
Now forget about the list, no attachment to what you don’t have. Trust me it’s coming.
You are not going to attract your dream partner from a place of lack.
Close your eyes again and visualise that you are already in this relationship, feel it in your whole body. Include all your senses and live your life from this place.
Be vibrant, be magnetic, be irresistible!
- Ask yourself, are you role modeling what you want to attract?
Otherwise start working towards BEING what you want to attract so you can meet your soulmate at the same level.
Fall in love with yourself.
Create a life you love and a life that you would love to be a part of, if you were watching your own life from the outside.
Also add a little sex magic to really make it happen. Just before you orgasm when you are completely out of your head and in your body, feel the relationship, feel the happiness, the love, the sense of safety and contentment from having him and her in your life. Focus on the feeling as you orgasm and you will subconsciously go out and live your life and make the right decisions to attract your soulmate. You will thank me later.
Go out, be yourself, live your life to the fullest, speak your truth, be open, be vulnerable and you will attract the right partner who belongs in your life.
(This can also work with friends, jobs, money, houses, dreams, goals, anything)
Happy New Year XO