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For couples who want to reconnect, deepen intimacy, and learn how to create the kind of connection they truly long for.

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Are you longing to feel the spark again? Deeper intimacy, more pleasure, and a stronger connection with your partner.

Struggling with desire, intimacy, or communication? You’re not alone.

Many couples find that over time intimacy becomes less frequent, less exciting, or disappears altogether. The spark fades, and partners can start to feel more like roommates than lovers. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

What if intimacy wasn’t just about sex, but about feeling deeply connected to each other, mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually. 

Sex can be deeply nourishing, safe, and truly pleasurable.

It’s also very common that one partner may be experiencing a specific challenge, such as low libido, erectile difficulties, pain during sex, difficulty reaching orgasm, or feeling disconnected from their body or sexuality.

For over six years, I’ve helped hundreds of individuals and couples overcome shame, blocks, and disconnection to rediscover intimacy, pleasure, deeper communication, and fulfilling sex.

Whether you’ve never experienced truly great sex together yet, or you once had it and something has changed, transformation is possible.

Intimacy and desire is about much more than what happens inside the bedroom.

Together we explore what is happening both inside and outside the bedroom, and help you reconnect with each other so you can experience the intimacy you both long for.

If this resonates with you, I warmly invite you to reach out.

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How I Can Help

My services as a trauma informed holistic sex and intimacy coach address a wide range of topics, desires and challenges:

  • Pleasure-focused sex education
  • Low libido or lack of desire
  • Mismatched libidos in relationships
  • Performance anxiety
  • Orgasm challenges
  • Body image and feeling comfortable in your body
  • Feeling numb or disconnected from your body or sexuality
  • Intimate communication
  • Confidence and sexual self-expression
  • Keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships
  • Sexless relationships
  • Navigating differences in desire or sexual needs
  • Feeling stuck in the mind during intimate moments
  • Communicating desires, boundaries, and fantasies
  • Rebuilding intimacy and connection in your relationship
  • Exploring deeper intimacy and enhancing your sex life together
  • Releasing feelings of shame, guilt, and fear around sexuality
  • Sex and intimacy after trauma
  • Learning to understand each other’s pleasure and desires
  • Reconnecting emotionally, physically, mentally and sexually
  • Creating a more fulfilling intimate relationship
  • Reignite the spark in your sex life
  • Explore fantasies, desires, and sexual curiosity together
  • Understand arousal, desire, and what creates attraction
  • Learn about pleasure, anatomy, and sexual response
  • Discover how to pleasure and connect with each other more deeply
  • Tantra and Sacred Sexuality
  • And so much more

I’m now able to finish with my wife, and we’re enjoying great sex again, even better than before

"I came to Alexandra because I was struggling with performance anxiety and couldn’t finish with my wife. This was a new and deeply frustrating challenge for me. I felt stuck in my head, like I was failing in the bedroom and letting my wife down. From our very first session, Alexandra made me feel completely safe. She was compassionate, funny and straightforward in her approach, which I really appreciated. Thanks to her support, I’m now able to finish with my wife, and we’re enjoying great sex again, even better than before"

Gary, Gold Coast

We got the spark back in our marriage and we couldn't recommend her enough

"Alexandra was amazing from day one. She made us feel so comfortable in a situation we went into feeling really anxious. She has changed things for us in our marriage and helped us bring out spark back. We couldn’t recommend her enough. Thank you so much"

M & J Couple Sydney
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I am way clearer, in my feminine flow and more connected to my body than ever before

"I thought going into the course that my issue was with my inability to connect with and be intimate and vulnerable with others. But I have realised it starts with me and I needed to be more intimate and vulnerable with myself and go deeper inward. I am way clearer, in my feminine flow and more connected to my body than ever before. I'm so grateful I followed the nudge and did the course, I got way more out of it than I was expecting and it was worth every minute and cent. It's crazy how much can change in 7 weeks. Thank you Alex - your energy is contagious."

Courtney, Sydney

I’ve learnt to love myself and my body again

"Alexandra, when we met it was with ease that I could open up and speak to you about pretty much anything I wanted to talk about, which was refreshing and to also have another woman's view of things. The biggest change in me came on the back of your homework exercises. I’ve learnt to love myself and my body again. I've had a lot of people see me differently and see massive changes in me. Body wise and spiritual. I feel so blessed to have you as my coach and looking forward to working with you again. You have been a great listener and a great coach. I would highly recommend you to anyone wanting to better their sex life and body image."

T Man, Sydney

Working with Alexandra was life changing. It made me regain my self confidence with women, in relationships and in sex

"Working with Alexandra was life changing. It made me overcome fears that I didn't know were blocking me, I regained my confidence. Alexandra was like a soft and padded cushion for my heavy and annoying stresses I was carrying on my back. Her calm and peaceful approach were the exact two things I incorporated more in my life since I started working with her. It made me regain my self confidence with women, in relationships and in sex. Thank you Alexandra"

Martin, Sydney
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I have the sex drive I had in my teens again which is really life changing!

"I wanted to reach out and say thank you so much for your help last year. Working with you was game-changing for me in speaking openly about sex/struggles with sex (generally but most importantly with myself), understanding what I needed to feel safe and communicating this fully and honestly with my partner. When starting with you I honestly couldn't imagine genuinely being able to enjoy sex ever again but now I absolutely do and have the sex drive I had in my teens which is really quite life changing! Thank you so much for everything Alexandra."

Woman, Sydney
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I was able to identify some major roadblocks

"I approached Alexandra initially when I had recently become single and began to navigate the world of dating with the intention of being more confident in communicating my wants and desires in the bedroom and becoming a better lover. What we uncovered in our sessions together went so much deeper and I was able to identify some major roadblocks going back years that had been holding me back both in dating and life. I cannot recommend working with Alexandra enough, she has a very warm demeanour that makes you feel very safe and heard while at the time she is a wealth of knowledge and explains things in a way that made sense to me."

James, Sydney
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I discovered my sexual energy and could explore my sexuality and my pleasure in a way I never would have on my own

"I always thought that I wasn't a sexual person but my journey with Alexandra and the MVBP course has helped me discover my sexual energy. The course encouraged me and supported me to explore my sexuality and my pleasure in a way I never would have on my own. It's given me tools, the language and the self trust I need to explore and grow my voice my body and my pleasure!"

Gabrielle, Sydney

I am prioritising myself and my pleasure

"I have an increased awareness of my bodily and emotional reactions to things outside my comfort zone/fear of rejections and how to physically work through those things so I don’t become disabled by fear. I think as well that thing of actually really prioritising yourself and your pleasure and creating a day that you want to live has been really powerful. Thank you for prompting me to try all these new things, I’ve learned so much from you."

Megan, UK
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My Approach

Holistic and Trauma-Informed Care
Understanding that every individual and relationship is unique, I tailor my sessions to meet your specific needs. My approach integrates mind, body, emotions, and energy, ensuring comprehensive care.

Safe and Non-Judgmental Space
I prioritise creating an environment where you feel safe to express yourself fully. My sessions are confidential, and I am here to listen and support you with compassion and without judgment.

Personalised Guidance
I work closely with you to understand your goals, desires and challenges. Whether you’re seeking to overcome specific obstacles or deepen your connection with yourself or your partner, I provide the tools and support you need.

Embodiment and Somatic Practices
Many people come to this work feeling shut down, resentful, or disconnected from their bodies after years of sex feeling like a duty rather than something they genuinely enjoy.

Lasting change doesn’t happen through talking alone. It happens when the body begins to feel safe enough to experience something new.

Through gentle somatic tools and embodiment practices, I help you reconnect with your body and its sensations. When the body softens and the nervous system settles, space opens for pleasure, arousal, and genuine intimacy to emerge again.

When we are stuck in survival mode, stress, or overthinking, the body simply cannot access pleasure or arousal. Working with the body and the nervous system helps create the safety needed for desire, connection, and intimacy to return naturally.

This approach supports deeper healing and creates lasting change in how you experience yourself, your sexuality, and your connection with your partner.

“This is a safe, confidential space where you can speak openly and honestly without shame or judgement. Whatever you’re experiencing, you are welcome here.”

What To Expect

When you work with me, you can expect a personalised experience. Together, we will:

  • Explore your desires, goals, and relationship dynamics
  • Identify and work through the challenges affecting your intimacy
  • Develop communication skills for deeper connection and understanding
  • Learn tools and practices to enhance pleasure, connection, and intimacy
  • Learn how to get out of your mind and back into your body
  • Learn to regulate your nervous system to create safety, relaxation, and openness
  • Reconnect with your bodies and sensations
  • Explore ways to rebuild desire, trust, and emotional closeness

Sessions may include non-sexual gentle somatic practices, gentle breath practices, simple nervous system regulation tools, or short guided meditations. 

Each session is followed by a recap email within 48 hours with tools, practices, and “home play” to support integration and help you move towards the relationship and intimacy you both desire.

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Coaching sessions are entirely talk-based, with the option to include non-sexual somatic practices if desired. Everyone remains fully clothed. Even so, these sessions can be deeply transformative, helping you explore sex, intimacy, pleasure, and how to get out of your head and into your body so you can experience truly amazing sex.

Why Work With a Sex Coach?

You don’t have to navigate this alone.
Just like in any other area of life, having guidance, support, and accountability can help you move forward more clearly and effectively.

While the internet, podcasts and AI offers endless information, it cannot understand your unique experiences, patterns, desires, and challenges. Real change often happens when you have a space to speak openly, receive personalised guidance, work with the body and be supported along the way.

Working with a coach also creates gentle accountability. Instead of staying stuck in the same patterns, you begin taking small steps that move you towards the intimacy, connection, and relationship you truly want.

Investing in this work is an investment in yourself and your relationships.

I look forward to connecting with you.

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Working with Alexandra has allowed me to lay the foundations for a deeper intimate connection with myself and others. I am extremely grateful for this gift.

"When I first met Alexandra I was not sure what to expect. I had been practicing other methods of inner work like breathwork. meditation and mindfulness. I'd been on retreats. But something had been missing. I worked with Alexandra on the piece that was missing. The sexual intimacy side of myself, the ability to slow down and really feel into all of my senses. To be accepting of my sexual side and all that encompasses. Alexandra is exceptional at what she does. she helped me to remove pressure I felt around sexual intimacy. To put healthy boundaries in place, to play and have fun, to communicate more clearly what I need sexually with my partner, to understand and embrace my partners desires. Alexandra really helped me explore sensations and pleasure. The work with Alexandra has allowed me to lay the foundations for a deeper intimate connection with myself and with others. I am extremely grateful for this gift"

E T Man, Sydney

I have the sex drive I had in my teens which is really quite life changing!

"I wanted to reach out and say thank you so much for your help last year. Working with you was game-changing for me in speaking openly about sex/struggles with sex (generally but most importantly with myself), understanding what I needed to feel safe and communicating this fully and honestly with my partner. When starting with you I honestly couldn't imagine genuinely being able to enjoy sex ever again but now I absolutely do and have the sex drive I had in my teens which is really quite life changing! Thank you so much for everything Alexandra"

E Woman, Sydney
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I’ve never felt this present and connected during intimacy, and it has changed my life.

"I am forever grateful for Alexandra’s help. I was avoiding dating and relationships because of the immense performance anxiety I was experiencing and my fear of not being able to perform in the bedroom. Alexandra helped me get out of my head and break free from my own limitations. With her guidance, and a gentle push, I found the confidence to start dating again. Now, I’m enjoying connections and great sex with women. I’ve never felt this present and connected during intimacy, and it has changed my life. Thank you, Alexandra. I hope every man struggling in the bedroom finds their way to you."

Jack, QLD

Frequently Asked Questions

Sessions are available online via Zoom or in person in Sydney East, Australia.
Not necessarily. You’re welcome to come together as a couple, or individually. Sometimes one partner begins the work and the other joins later. Some couples attend all sessions together, while others choose a mix of joint and individual sessions. 
We can explore what feels most supportive for you.
Yes, it’s more common than you might think. Many individuals and couples seek support around intimacy, connection, communication, and their relationship with their body, just like they would with any other area of life, whether that’s seeing a dentist or working with a personal trainer.
Working with a sex and intimacy coach is simply a way to better understand yourselves, learn about sex, feel more at ease in your bodies, and create more fulfilling experiences in your relationship. It’s a supportive, confidential space where both of you are welcome, without judgment.
Today, we see sexologists and relationship experts more openly represented in media and everyday conversations, it reflects how important intimacy and connection are for building healthy relationships.
Sessions are primarily conversation-based and tailored to what you are currently navigating as a couple.
Together, we explore your experiences, patterns, and dynamics around intimacy, communication, and connection. I may offer guidance, education, somatic awareness practices, or simple tools to help you both feel more connected, understood, and at ease with each other.
At times, we may also explore gentle breath practices or short guided non sexual exercises to support presence and connection.
All sessions are fully clothed and held in a safe, respectful, and judgement-free space. You will never be asked to do anything you don’t feel comfortable with.
This is very common in relationships.
In our work together, we explore these differences with curiosity and without judgment, helping you understand each other more deeply and find ways to reconnect that feel supportive for both of you.
The goal is not to force change, but to create more understanding, communication, and connection. We don’t focus on just one person, but on how both of you can show up differently to create meaningful change together.
Therapy often focuses on understanding and processing past experiences, emotional wounds, or trauma within a clinical framework.
Coaching is more present and future-focused. In our work together, we explore what is currently happening in your relationship, your patterns around intimacy and communication, and what you both desire to experience instead.
I offer guidance, education, nervous system regulation, and somatic practices to help you reconnect, build trust, and create more fulfilling intimacy together.
This work is not psychotherapy or a replacement for mental health treatment.
Absolutely. Many individuals and couples feel nervous at first.
Sessions are a confidential, judgement-free space where both of you are welcome exactly as you are. Many clients share that they begin to feel at ease within the first few minutes, and that they are able to talk about things they’ve never spoken about before. Creating a safe and supportive space for both of you is something I hold with deep care and intention.
Every couple and situation is different. Some come for a few sessions to work through a specific challenge, while others choose to work together over a longer period for deeper support and transformation. During your connection call, we can explore what you’re navigating and what level of support would feel most aligned for you.
If I feel I’m not the right person to support you, I will always be honest about that.
This is one of the reasons I offer a connection call before we begin. I only work with people I genuinely feel I can help, and if we’re not the right fit, I’ll guide you towards a more suitable form of support.
I’d love to hear them. You’re welcome to book a free 15-minute connection call below.
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