How to get your partner to initiate sex!
Does your partner never ask for sex?
Does your partner never take initiative to sex?
Are you finding it hard to read the signs if and when your partner is open for sex and intimacy?
You are not alone
Imagine how easy it would be if we came home to our partner and they were waiting with a “Fuck Me sign” every time they are in the mood. Preferably when and only when we are in the mood too.
No guessing games, no trying to read signs and signals, no trying to make them horny in 10 different ways that doesn’t work, no chance of getting rejected.
Unfortunately in most relationships it doesn’t work like that!
When I hear: “My partner never initiate sex” The first thing I ask my clients is if they have told them how they want their partner to initiate sex?
If your idea of how you want your partner to take initiative to sex is “taking your hand and drag you to the bedroom with a firm grip, certainty and desire” but your partner doesn’t know that so they are trying by “playing with your hair and slowly kissing your neck” you will miss the signals when they are trying.
Or
You think that you are initiating sex and hinting that you are open for intimacy by wearing lingerie/sensual pyjamas but your partner think that you will initiate sex by asking “Do you want to have sex” your partner will not understand your signals. ??♀️
How do we solve this problem?
By asking!
? How do you want me to show interest and take initiative to sex?
? How do I know if you are open for sex and want me to take initiative?
? What do you need to get in the mood for sex?
? Do you prefer if I ask you if you are keen or do you prefer if I do something?
? I love being intimate with you and feel that I’m trying different things to turn you on, can you please share with me what you don’t like or what turns you off so I won’t initiate in that way again?
If you are really struggling to communicate I can recommend to use a candle! ?
When you lit the candle it means that you are open for your partner take initiative to sex. ?
Write each other a list:
5 ways I like you to initiate sex!
Communication is the key.
