How to tell your partner about your sexual fantasy
This is one of the most common questions I get. Couples who can talk about sex have better sex in general and couples who can talk about sex can often communicate better about other challenging topics in the relationship.
Here are some examples to help you share your deepest desires.
? Hi babe I heard something interesting on a podcast this morning that couples who try anal sex tend to bond more during that experience and it can even strengthen trust and communication. What’s your thoughts about that?
? The boys spoke about 50 shades before and how women are going crazy after the books and films came out. Apparently more than half of all the women fantasies about being tied up, is that something you would like to try?
? The girls at work spoke about how they love being blindfolded during sex and I find that a bit weird and scary. It’s not something I’m ready to try now but do you think you would enjoy blindfolding me or being blindfolded one day?
? I saw on the TV this morning a doctor spoke about how men can have a stronger, more intense orgasm if they get their prostate stimulated. I am clenching my butt just thinking about it, I think it’s a bit crazy but have you tried that on another man before? Maybe I would be open to try one day if I’m really horny and we are in the right mood, I’m not sure.
I heard, I saw, I had a dream, “I have a friend” always works. It’s a great way to check in where your partner or lover is standing around the topic. If they seem open, curious and interested you can keep the conversation going and go ahead to explore it together. If they completely shut it down or say it’s weird or not their thing just leave it for a bit. Now you have planted a seed in their mind and before you know it they will be thinking about it and it’s not uncommon that they will turn around and take up the topic with you again at a later stage. They might just need some time to feel into it, do some research or just play with the idea. If it’s a complete HELL NO NEVER, you have to decide if this is something you can live without or if you have to move on
