Keeping the sexual spark alive

So we all know that the honeymoon stage ends at some point for most couples and the spark is not going to be there in the same way after 10 years as the first couple of months.

The spark will not be constant 24/7-365, forever. At least not for most couples but the couples who master it are the ones who always can find a way back to the spark.

The secret is to lit yourself up and allow your partner to lit themselves up with what sparks your and their own life and then bring that spark into the relationship you have together.

You need to keep doing what makes you happy, what makes you feel good, what sets your soul on fire and allow your partner to do the same. That could be weekends away with your mates, sailing, getting your nails done, gym, playing sports or joining a book and wine club.

Prioritising your own health, mentally and physically, looking after your own needs and desires is not selfish, it’s a part of allowing yourself to become the best version of you and show up like that in your relationship. In the same way you need to support your partner to do their thing and maybe even push them sometimes to do so. Desire needs space.

There is no permanent state of passion but when the two of you are passionate about things in your own life that passion will mirror out in the relationship and the life you live together.