Men’s Coaching
For men ready to get out of their head and do the work to overcome performance anxiety and pressure. Build confidence, connection, and presence in your life, dating, relationships, and intimacy.
Does it feel like something isn’t working the way it should?
You spend a lot of time in your head, overthinking and making things bigger than they need to be.
Your body doesn’t always feel like it’s on your side.
Staying present is hard.
Confidence with women, or in your relationship comes and goes.
And intimacy can feel uncertain, pressured, unreliable… or something you start to avoid.
Performance anxiety creeps in.
Surrender feels difficult.
Arousal or orgasm don’t respond the way you want them to.
If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.
And you’re in the right place.
Over the past 6 years, I’ve worked with men from all walks of life, CEOs, tradies, fathers, husbands, athletes, students, and entrepreneurs. I’ve supported men through 1:1 sessions, men’s groups, in-person and online workshops, and international online events.
Different stories, but one common thread:
They live primarily in the head, disconnected from the body, with a chronically activated nervous system.
From there, these challenges often show up as:
- Anxiety. Struggling to calm the mind when overthinking takes over
- Feeling numb or disconnected. Running on autopilot instead of living
- Sexual performance anxiety. In and out of the bedroom
- Difficulty with emotional connection. Struggling to communicate or experience closeness
- Lack of confidence with women. Not being able to show up with ease
- Struggles with intimacy, shame and sexuality. Unsure how to express or connect
- Erectile challenges. Difficulty getting or maintaining an erection
- Ejaculation concerns. Ejaculating early, or struggling to ejaculate at all
Many men come to work with me because they’re tired of living in their head and performing their way through life and intimacy.
They want more, more connection to themselves and others, more confidence in their body and during intimacy, more pleasure and sensation, but they don’t know how to access it. They want to better understand their own body and sexuality, women’s sexuality, arousal, and the feminine, without pressure, guessing, or performance.
Maybe you’ve been thinking about getting support for a while.
Because you believe there must be another way.
If you’re here, this is your sign that you don’t have to keep putting this on hold.
It’s time to say yes to:
More connection.
More pleasure, peace and presence.
Intimacy that feels natural and stress-free, rather than something to manage or perform.
More confidence, in your body, during sex, and with women.
One of the most common things I hear from the men I work with is:
“I’m so glad I didn’t wait any longer to get support.”
How it works
I’m here to support real, embodied change, not just to listen or offer information. This work goes beyond talking about what’s happening.
While awareness is important, lasting change happens when the body is included.
We work at the level of the nervous system, sensation, and embodiment, so patterns don’t just get understood, they begin to shift. This also means your engagement matters. The practices and integration between sessions are an important part of the work.
While we may gently explore your past to understand how it has shaped you, our work is focused on the present and oriented toward where you want to go and how you want to feel. We work with what’s alive in you right now:
The tightness in your chest.
The racing heart.
The performance anxiety.
The inner voice that says, “I’m not enough.”
The overwhelm when trying to connect with women or your partner.
The fear of rejection.
The moments when your body feels exposed, tense, or hard to regulate.
This is where change begins, not by analysing, but by meeting these experiences in the body and allowing them to shift.
- The tight chest. Racing heart. The performance anxiety. The voice in your head saying “you’re not enough”.
- The overwhelm when you try to connect with women. The fear of rejection. Excessive sweating.
Men's coaching My approach
I blend intimacy education, embodiment, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and gentle breathwork with trauma-informed life and intimacy coaching.
I’ll challenge you when needed, hold you accountable, and remind you that you’re not broken.
There’s nothing to fix, only conditioning to unlearn, a nervous system to settle, and practical tools to integrate that will support you with intimacy, relationships, and everyday life.
This work isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about returning to yourself, grounded, present, confident and connected.
Safe Space...
and REAL results!
As you’ll see in my testimonials and reviews, I create a deeply safe, non-judgmental space where you can open up at your own pace.
I’m warm, compassionate, and supportive, and I’ll also challenge you where it matters, so you don’t stay stuck and can genuinely move toward your goals and desires.
Between sessions, you’ll be supported with practical tools and practices to reconnect with your body, regulate your nervous system, build confidence, communicate with ease, and work through intimacy and sexual challenges.
This is where real, lasting change happens, not through force or thinking your way there, but through safety, consistency, and embodied practice.
This Work Is For You If…
You’re ready to get out of your head and reconnect to your body.
You want to feel more confident, present, and grounded, in yourself and during intimacy.
You’re tired of performance anxiety or sexual challenges holding you back.
You’re done numbing out, overthinking, or running on autopilot.
You want to show up more fully present as a partner, lover, or husband.
You want intimacy that feels safe, real, and alive, not pressured or performative.
And you’re ready to understand what creates safety, desire, trust, and deep connection with a woman, emotionally and sexually.
You’re looking for a quick fix without being willing to engage in the process.
You want to talk about your challenges, but aren’t ready to take responsibility or translate insight into real, embodied change.
You’re only interested in becoming technically “great in bed.”
(This work goes deeper than techniques or performance.)
You’d rather keep avoiding intimacy than explore what it means to reconnect with your body and inner experience.
If you’re unsure whether this is the right fit, we can explore that together in a connection call.
For any man considering reaching out for support or working with a professional like Alexandra, I would say that it's a courageous and valuable step. Opening up about intimacy can be challenging, but seeking guidance will likely lead to personal growth and enhanced relationships. it's perfectly normal to seek help in this area, everyone deserves to enjoy a fulfilling and satisfying intimate life, and professional support can provide the tools to achieve that.
Gentlemen, there is no shame to seek for knowledge or help as long as your goal is improving your and your partner’s intimacy and sexual life! The shame is to stay in the dark..!
The Next Step
If you’re still reading, something in you already knows this could be the right place to start.
Book a free connection call today.
No obligation. You don’t need to know what to say, just a genuine conversation to explore whether this work feels right for you.