Steak and Blowjob Day – Ultimate guide to give killer head
Steak and Blowjob day – Ultimate guide to give killer head
Want to learn how to give the most amazing blow job experience?
Here is a guide to give him oral sex that will blow his mind.
Steak and Blowjob Day was created as a male response to valentine’s day and is celebrated exactly one month after 14 February.
Forget about roses and chocolate, today is all about filet and fellatio.
The best oral sex doesn’t happen with someone who has the best technique or skills.
It happens with the person who:
Shows how much they love giving their partner oral sex.
Shows how much they love pleasing their partner.
Shows how much they love seeing their partner experience pleasure.
If you are going to give your man a blowjob you might as well decide to love it in the moment. It will make the experience much better for both of you.
Even if you don’t like the practice itself, I invite you to change your mindset for a moment. Allow yourself to enjoy and get turned on by how much you are able to turn your partner on and all the pleasure they are experiencing because of you.
Isn’t that the sexiest thing ever?
So I will give you specific tips but the number one key factor to unforgettable blowjobs and mind blowing oral sex is:
Enthusiasm!!
Master this and everything else will fall into place!
Be present
Try to make your partner feel that you are doing it because you love pleasing him and not because you feel obligated to do it.
Try to make him feel that you are doing it for his pleasure not just to get him off as quick as possible. Don’t try to chase an orgasm as quickly as possible. Take your time and enjoy the experience without an end goal.
Focus on pleasure not climax.
Embrace the cock, worship it, adore it, love it and help your partner bring awareness and connection to their penis.
Make your partner feel wanted and desired!
Make him feel that you love his cock.
Make him feel comfortable and relaxed.
Make him feel that he is perfect, his cock is perfect and that he is enough.
Tell him to lay back and that this moment is about him but that you will share the experience and share the pleasure with him.
Help him get out of their head and into his body so he can surrender to the experience without worrying about climaxing too quickly or not at all. Let him know that there is no end goal and nothing to achieve.
**Not everyone who has a cock is a man but this article was written for a group of women I work with who are in hetrosexual relationships. Feel free to swap him to whatever is working for you***
Remember men are nervous as well.
About size, shape, form, losing erection, not getting hard, cumming too quickly, not cumming at all, if you like them, if you are attracted to them and so on…
Men have received so many negative messages about their sexuality from society, culture, their upbringing and porn. All we see is bigger sized penises in porn that are way above average and they can all last for a minimum 20 minutes of penetration and every man ejaculates a massive load every time.
This is as far from reality as it can get. I’m not going into this now but every cock is perfect, it’s normal to ejcaulate within minutes especially during oral sex and it’s normal to not ejaculate at all. Even if he just experienced the best blow job of his life.
You can invite them beforehand to let you know if they want you to slow down or stop for a bit, if they are getting close to cum.
Steak and Blowjob day – Ultimate guide to give killer head – Preparation:
Everyone is different
Communication is the key because every man is different and likes different things.
Watch your partner, read their body language, listen to their sounds, notice their breath and feel them. Always start soft and slowly build up the intensity in everything you do.
Build up before the bedroom.
Remeber that the brain is our biggest sex orgasn and that sex starts there. Send him a text message or tell him in the morning that you have a surprise for him later today/tonight. Or if you really want to get him super excited tell him that you are going to take your time later and worship his cock.
Start teasing, flirting, touching and kissing him extra passionate all day to build up the sexual tension. (Unless it’s a morning BJ or a road head, just go for it)
Also a great time to hint that you would like him to shave his penis or balls if you prefer less hair. I’m sure most men wouldn’t mind a little trim if they knew what’s coming. Order an extra big pineapple juice for him for breakfast since pineapple makes the cum taste so much better.
Build up is everything!
Take your time, kiss him passionately first and longer than normal. Connect with him and look deep into his eyes. Let him feel what is coming and that it’s going to be special. Kiss his neck, lick his ears, nibble on his nipples, kiss his stomach, lick his hip bones, massage his inner thighs and pretty much everywhere just not his cock. Keep eye contact as much as you can. Flirt with him.
Let him see you!
Remember men love to watch what you are doing. Remove your hair away from your face and have enough light so he can see what you are doing, dimmed light or a candle if perfect.
Touch him everywhere
Caress him, squeeze him in the right ways and make him feel really fucking desired. Use your nails and play with different sensations. The more you make him feel wanted, sexy, beautiful and comfortable, the more he will love it even if you don’t get the strokes, tongue or technique right.
By now he would already be on fire so you can’t go wrong!
Go back up to kiss his face and whisper in his ear how you can’t wait to taste him. Men love hearing how much you crave them.
Suck his fingers with enthusiasm and give him a taste of what he can expect.
Keep his underwear on!!
Go slow remember, kiss his cock with his undies still on. Blow warm air through them, lick and maybe suck a little on the head, gentle. Moan over the cock and send vibration through the material.
Don’t hold back on sounds.
I can’t express this enough. I honestly haven’t heard one single man yet who doesn’t love a woman who is vocal in bed. Moan, slurp, let out whatever noises and sounds that are alive in you. Don’t fake it, just allow everything. Feel your own body, feel how your own desire is on the rise, allow sounds, moans, sighs, as long as it’s real it’s hot AF.
Steak and Blowjob day – Ultimate guide to give killer head – Let’s get into action
Undies off
Stroke your fingers across the top of the line of his underwear a few times and gently take them off all the way. Kiss all around his cock. Inner thighs, lower stomach, pubic bone… as you do so let the outside of your lips just touch the edge of his cock. Accidentally happen to slide your face, hand or arm over his cock to send sensations through his whole body.
Tease, tease tease!!!! Make him squirm, make him moan, make him beg you to take him in your mouth.
Lube or spit!
We spoke about the importance of foreplay when it comes to pussy owners because no one likes to go down a waterslide without water. Think in the same way with the penis. If you have a lube handy you can use it. It will be a nicer experience when there is no friction. Otherwise most men don’t mind if you spit, it will actually be a big turn on. If you are unsure just ask – it’s a bit dry do you mind if I spit? Or drool in your own hand and make it wet that way. You can gag a little to create more natural saliva.
Just the tip!
Lick his head first. Play with the tongue around the head and start with just putting the head gently towards your lips and with your lips together squeeze the head slowly into your mouth. Suck on the top of his penis for a bit and mix it up with licking the frenulum and play with the sensation around that area of the head. It’s a sweet spot and it’s located on the underside of the penis where the head meets the shaft. It’s super sensitive so only put light pressure on the spot and make sure there is no friction.
Sucking
The key is to find out what works for him. Explore with speed, pressure, rhythm and how deep to go. Be careful of your teeth. Create an O shape with your mouth and then you can apply and explore with pressure as you are sucking up and down.
Tongue!
Roll, twirl and swirl your tongue as you are sucking to create mind blowing sensations. Play with your tongue and try both with a soft and hard tongue as you are stroking and sucking up and down. You can also lick the penis from the balls all the way up to the top a few times. This is a create opportunity for eye contact and connect to your partner again as you are licking his penis. Spend some extra time around the head with your tongue again and give your jaw a break.
Use your hands!
One or both. Wrap your fingers around the shaft and stroke up and down as you are sucking. Use two hands! Yes it takes a bit of coordination and depending on the position it can be tricky to support yourself but it is super hot. Try two handed stroking with gently twisting in the different direction as you go up and down. You can also use one hand around the base of the shaft as a “cockring” while you are stroking with the other and sucking at the same time. (Don’t stress, practice makes perfect)
Steak and Blowjob day – Ultimate guide to give killer head – Extras
Don’t forget the balls.
You can use a pillow under him to get better access to lick, suck and reach the balls and the areas behind the balls. Lick them, lick around and suck them gently. Cup them with your hands as you are sucking the penis, play with them, massage them, some might even like them squeezed a bit. (again check in with your partner)
The perineum.
Another sweet spot between the base of the scrotum and the anus. Just put some pressure around the area with your free hand and massage it in different ways while you are sucking. You can even lick or practice oral sex around that area if your partner likes that.
Deep throating.
This is not for everyone and that’s ok. Again many people love both receiving and giving deep throating. There are so many layers to why this is super sexy why it turn so many men on during oral sex. You don’t have to go super deep. Often it’s more about the sound it creates and how it adds extra saliva and makes it more wet and sloppy.
Use your cheek instead of deep throating.
If you don’t like the idea of deep throating, get the penis to hit the inside of your cheek and it will almost feel like a deep throat. Rubbing his sensitive head against the inside of your cheek can create amazing sensations. This also works with the roof of your mouth.
Rub his penis all over your face!
Love it, embrace it, worship it.
Rimming/Anus Sensations
Some people love receiving oral sex around the anus. The anus have so many nerve endings and are often forgotten about when it comes to oral sex. This might only be an option directly after a shower for some of you and if you know that your partner is open for it. Don’t be afraid to explore together. So many people absolutely love it.
Prostate Pleasure.
If you are a bit adventurous and you have green light from your partner you can add prostate pleasure. The prostate is located two to four inches inside the rectum between the rectum and the penis and the best way to stimulate the prostate is through the anus. Prostate stimulation can create some of the most intense orgasms for men.
Dirty talk!
Tell your partner what you are feeling and experiencing. Don’t complicate it, just say what you are thinking. The more senses you include in your sexual experiences the more pleasure you invite.
I love tasting you.
I get really turned on by feeling you grow in my mouth.
I love feeling your hard cock deep in my mouth.
You taste so good.
Moan and slurp.
Food/taste
Add some flavour lube, honey, chocolate sauce, cream, mints or whatever to spice things up. Chewing a gum or eating a juicy piece of fruit before can both add sensations and extra saliva. (Red wine can make your mouth dry)
Use toys.
Add vibration, use a cockring, a butt plug or tie up him and add a power exchange dynamic.
Blindfold
Hot tips!!! Use a blindfold to allow him to feel more and you don’t have to worry about what you look like. As we know men love what they can see but if this makes you feel more comfortable going all in with the blow job, spice it up and blindfold him.
Your body
Use your body to slide over the cock. Especially your face and breasts. It’s a great way to give your mouth a break from sucking and keep the sensations going.
Ask for direction.
It’s all about checking in with him what he likes and what he is open to try. Every man is different and what he liked yesterday might not work today.
Ask him along the way
-Do you want me to go faster?
-Should I use less pressure?
-Do you like when I use both hands or do you prefer one?
-How can I make this more pleasurable for you?
-Do you want me to do longer strokes or stay around the head?
-Is it wet enough?
Steak and Blowjob day – Ultimate guide to give killer head – Ending it
Swallowing?
Swallowing or not is completely up to you. I’m sure most men love it but not everyone so please check in with your partner. You can let him cum in your mouth but if you don’t want to swallow just keep your mouth open and let it drip out over the penis again. If you don’t want his semen in your mouth tell him before that you want him to let you know if and before he is ejaculating.
Facial,
(When the ejaculate goes all over your face) I know this is not for everyone and if you want to understand why so many people love this go and read my post about facials. Again ask your partner and check in with yourself where you want them to cum if they ejaculate. Maybe just on your breast? Or not on you at all is completely fine as well. It’s great to have this conversation before.
I believe every person should always tell their partner if they can before they cum when they are receiving oral sex. I think it’s disrespectful to just ejaculate in someone’s mouth without having consent for it.
I also know that often the pleasure is just too good and he explodes into an orgasm without a chance to react or say something. If this happens and he apologise, remember that none of us can fully control our bodies perfectly at all times.
There is no danger in swallowing seemen and it often doesn’t taste much. Especially if they have a healthy diet.
Ways to end it without ejaculation
Again, don’t make orgasm the end goal and never ever say:
Are you close or are you there yet?
That will just make him feel like he is taking too long, that something is wrong with him, that he has failed and that you are bored. He will feel that you are only sucking him for his pleasure and as something you probably should do and not because you love it and want to.
Better ways to end are:
- This was really nice. I loved taking my time and worshipping your cock.
- Thank you for allowing me to give you head and share this experience with you.
- I really enjoyed this, what did you like most?
- That was a beautiful experience. I don’t think I have ever sucked with so much enthusiasm before.
- This made me so horny and I don’t think I can wait any longer, I need you inside me now.
“Cumming too quickly or not getting hard”
Keep in mind that oral sex is extremely pleasurable for most men. This can lead to him ejaculating already before you get his penis in your mouth (Especially with all the teasing techniques above) or that he ejaculates within a minute or two. Never make a big deal of it and take it as a compliment that he is so turned on by what you do.
If he is not getting hard or losing an erection remember that this has nothing to do with you. This is normal! Don’t take it personally because you have no control of what’s going on in his mind and maybe he doesn’t either. Stress and worries are the biggest erection killer and if he is nervous, struggles with self image or is stressed due to work, finances or something else it doesn’t matter how good you are at giving head. Again don’t make a big deal of it and worship the cock soft. Kiss it, stroke it and give it some love. Go back to touch his whole body, kiss him and connect with him until he gets hard again or just keep cuddling.
Men if you need help/guidance/coaching.
I’m a certified sex and intimacy coach who help men on daily basis with performance anxiety, erectile challenges, early and delayed ejaculation and many other topics. Please don’t suffer in silence and please don’t stay away from intimate moments because there is something in the bedroom you are worried about. Reach out today and allow me to help you to the intimate experiences you deserve and desire.
Email me at Alexandra@louiseb31.sg-host.com
The more I write the more things I come up with. I need to wrap it up here but make sure you get comfortable. The more comfortable you are the more you will enjoy it, and when he feels that you are enjoying giving him head it doesn’t matter what you do with your mouth or hands.
So take aways from my Steak and Blowjob day – Ultimate guide to give killer head
Don’t rush, take your time.
Allow yourself to enjoy it. I work with so many women who say that giving head is their favourite part of foreplay. It’s hot, it’s fun, it’s sexy. Get yourself in the right mindset and it will be a much more pleasurable experience.
Enthusiasm is the key, remember!
And most of all have fun!
Sex is meant to be fun and playful not a performance.
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