The sexiest thing you can do is to align your actions with your words
Agree? It’s s 2020 and we are not obligated to commit to someone just because we are having a great time together. Never have it been more OK to focus on our own career, focus on our own personal growth or a goal/dream we are chasing. It’s okey to not be ready for a relationship and not want to commit. It’s s OK to wanna have your freedom or prioritise other things.
The best thing about being an adult is that we can decide who we are spending time with, who we surround ourselves with and whose energy we let affect our own vibration.
If you just want to fuck say that, if you want to stay single that’s cool, if you want to have multiple lovers that are completely fine (poly and open relationships are more common then ever) If you want to hang out regularly but don’t want to invest in a relationship thats OK but make that clear. Just want a one night stand or a casual playdate make that clear, want to be friends with benefits make that clear. It is really that simple. I don’t believe in labeling things straight away with new connections but as soon as you know what you want be open and honest about it. Don’t promise someone the world, don’t sweet talk or manipulate. I strongly believe in karma and the way we treat others will come back to us.
One night stands, casual sex, NSA fun, friends with benefits, a one off BDSM scenes, group sex, threesomes or what ever you prefer is completely fine but be honest about what you want. It will allow you both to enjoy the experience much more when you are on the same page and hopefully it will avoid that someone is getting hurt.
On that note if you are developing feelings and want something more than what you are given you have to express that. If you are getting hurt from not getting your needs and desires met you have to take up the conversation and either move on to a new stage together or move on. No more tolerating of sweet talk, no more tolerating of not being respected, no more tolerating of not being seen, heard and understood and definitely no more tolerating of getting hurt. If the person you spend time with doesn’t t align their actions with their words, move on. You deserve better.
