How to say NO to sex without hurting your partner
Don’t feel for sex? This is how you reject sex and not your partner.
Rejection is hard and not fun at all. Do you remember a time when you have been rejected? Not a nice feeling right?
One of the main reason people stop taking initiative to sex is because they are scared of being rejected.
I coach couples how to say NO to sex and not NO to their partners.
I suggest that when you say NO acknowledge them first for wanting to be intimate with you, be positive about their attention and give them a reason why you don’t feel for sex and when it might be a better time.
Example could be
?I love how you want to be intimate with me, tonight is not a good time because I had a massive day at work and I’m too tired. Can we try on the weekend when we have more time if we both feel for it?
? I really appreciate you for taking initiative to sex. I feel now is not the right time because I have too much on my mind and I can’t be fully present with you and give you the attention you deserve. Can we go to bed earlier tonight and cuddle for a bit and maybe that will help me relax later?
? You really turn me on and I wish I could stay in bed with you this morning but I need to rush to work. I will send you a sexy text later and I make up for this on Sunday morning.
? It means a lot to me that you are trying to please me but I am just not in the mood for sex tonight. I feel what I need right now is to just relax and watch TV with you next to me. We should schedule a long weekend away where we get a few days without kids and no thinking about work so we can enjoy each other fully without distractions.
So basically always start with acknowledging them for wanting to be with you.
Isn’t being wanted and desires one of the best things ever?
Make sure you praise them for it so they keep doing it. If you just say NO all the time without a reason it might come a day when they don’t want to have sex with you anymore and once that have happened is much harder to reignite the spark, lust and desire again.
And remember when you get rejected:
Your partner is not rejecting YOU, they are rejecting sex with you
