Melting hug!
A melting hug is a long belly to belly, heart to heart, breathing and maybe being a bit uncomfortable until you melt and also hold space for your partner’s discomfort until he or she melts in your arms and you are both connected.
It’s scary to melt into another person’s arms, body and presence. It’s scary to be vulnerable, to be soft and to let our walls down and drop in fully with another person. There is so much power in a melting hug and a beautiful way to relax yourself and connect with your partner deeply.
1. Stand up 3 meters apart and look into each other’s eyes. Give it a moment until you are comfortable and have relaxed into it. Take a few breaths and pass through the awkward stage and allow yourself to be present.
2. Move towards each other and hug for 3 minutes. It’s a long time so let it melt away separation, sadness, stress, anxiety, fear, anger, pressure, feeling of not being enough, let it all melt away. Breathe normally until you are breathing in sync together. Allow yourself to feel safe, to feel love, to feel worthy and to feel connection. All feelings are welcome.
3. Move apart again to where you started and take off your clothes. Look into each other’s eyes and move towards each other and melt into another hug for 3 minutes and drop in even deeper together.
4. Move apart again, stand there for a minute and then sit down together and share about the experience.
Did you feel relaxed? Tense? Love? Did you hold your breath? What came up for you? Which part was scariest or most uncomfortable? Did you feel resistance or connection? Did you feel separation after the hug? How are you feeling now?
Just share a few words or sentences about what you are feeling or felt during the practise.
I know the “melting hug” has had a mind blowing effects for many couples. Give it a go and let me know. Also you can give and receive melting hugs from friends, family and other people. Just do the 3 minute hug with clothes on and allow you both to drop in together.