How to give a great hand job
I get messages from people who want more specific tips and advice on how to do things in the bedroom. I feel that I haven’t really got into those topics because there is no right answer. Everyone is different and likes different things so it all comes back to communication, asking, reading your partner’s body language and trying out what works and not.
Look how they move, listen to their breath and the noises they make.
Also what worked today might not work tomorrow. We are in different head-spaces and modes and one day we might like it gentle and soft and next day rough and primal. Anyway here are some tips on how to give a great hand job.
My number 1 tip to give a really good handjob would be to watch them touch themselves first. This is super sexy to start with and would most likely turn you on and you give you a few minutes to study what they like.
So ask them, – Can I watch you play with yourself first please? It would really turn me on and I would love it.
Then it’s all about enthusiasm, if you are loving playing with the co*k don’t be afraid to show that. If you are someone who doesn’t really enjoy this for your own pleasure I invite you to try change your mindset and see how the whole experience would change for you if you “decide to love it”
Trust me the person with the co*k can feel if you are enjoying it or not.
Don’t try to chase an orgasm as quickly as possible. Take your time and enjoy the experience without an end goal. Focus on pleasure not climax. Embrace the cock, worship it, adore it, love it, be present and help the co*k owner bring awareness and connection to the penis.
Teasing! If the co*k owner still has their pants on, grab the penis, massage it, rub it maybe even kiss the cock from the outside of the pants or blow some hot air through. Go slow, there is no need to rush. Build up the sexual tension and play around with the cock before you even take it out. Move your hands on the side of it, grind your arms on his hip bones. Tease, tease, tease!
- Lube or spit! We spoke about the importance of foreplay when it comes to pus*y owners because no one likes to go down a waterslide without water. Think in the same way with a handjob. If you have a lube handy, use it. It will be a nicer experience when there is no friction. Otherwise most cock owners don’t mind if you spit, it will actually be a big turn on. If you are unsure just ask – it’s a bit dry do you mind if I spit? Or droll in your own hand and make it wet that way.
- Wrap your fingers around the shaft and as you stroke it up and down don’t forget to rub the head of the penis. Grab it like you mean it but don’t pull the skin too far down. Start slow! You have a sweet spot “the Frenulum” and it’s located on the underside of the penis where the head meets the shaft. It’s super sensitive so only put light pressure on the spot and make sure there is no friction. When it’s rubbed gently together with long strokes up and down the penis shaft it can be an amazing sensation. Make sure you bring your hands all the way up because the tip of the cock have many nerve endings that can bring a lot of pleasure.
- Two hands! Yes it takes a bit of coordination and depending on the position it can be tricky to support yourself but it is super hot. You can also use one hand around the base of the shaft as a “cockring” while you are stroking with the other.
- Don’t forget the balls. Cup them, play with them, massage them, some might even like them squeezed a bit. (again check in with your partner)
- The perineum. Another sweet spot between the base of the scrotum and the anus. Just put some pressure around the area with your free hand and massage it in different ways.
Endless with options to play around with and please don’t be afraid to ask:
– Do you want me to go faster,
– Would you prefer more lube,
– Do you like less pressure?
Also:
It’s ok to reach down and touch yourself at the same time.
It’s fine to make sounds, move your body and really get into it.
Don’t be afraid to talk dirty during the hand job to spice it up.