Do you want to make your partner cum but aren’t sure how?
Ask her!
Same answer to every question!
Sometimes it can almost be easier to have to conversation before you have sex.
During dinner, when you are cuddling on the couch, via text or during foreplay.
Don’t make it a dead serious question. Ask with the same ease as you would ask how she likes her eggs in the morning.
Ask your partner if they normally experience orgasm during self pleasure or sex and what’s their favourite way to orgasm.
If they say yes, you are not adding any extra pressure by asking what’s their “favourite way to orgasm”. Otherwise you could make them feel bad that they need specific conditions to climax. ✨
Some women only orgasm e.g.
- On their back
- With a vibrator
- with Clitoris stimulation
- On top riding
- Doggy with self stimulation
- While pinching their nipples
- From Anal play
- Lights off
- In the morning
- With clothes on
- With music on
- From G-spot stimulation
- From dirty talk
Some women only like boiled eggs, and others only scrambled…
no big deal!
Some women only orgasm on their back, and others only with a vibrator…
no big deal.
If you serve her eggs for breakfast and she doesn’t even touch them, what would you do?
Ask her if she doesn’t like eggs and if she does, ask her how she want you to cook them for her next time.
Easy!
By asking you are also doing the women a massive favour. Many women are so scared of hurting their partners feelings and won’t be able express what they require.
So without fuss just let it slip out like the most normal question outside the bedroom:
– I’ve heard on the radio this morning that many women have programmed their body for so long during self pleasure to reach orgasm in the same way so it makes it really hard to orgasm in any other way. What do you need to orgasm? Or what’s your favourite way to orgasm?
Are you someone who do only orgasm from the same pattern I invite you to mix it up. You can teach your body to orgasm in new ways but it might take some time.