Stop chasing orgasm and the magic will happen!

Stop chasing the orgasm and you will feel more sensation!!!⠀
I’m keeping this one short because i talk about this literally all the time and there is no difference when it comes to masturbation, self pleasure or sex. ⠀
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Stop make orgasm the end goal of s€x and masturbation every time. The harder you try the harder it gets and you will miss out on a hell lot of pleasure if all your focus is on “achieving an orgasm” ⠀
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Focus on sensation. Focus on pleasure. Focus on what feels good right now and not what’s going to get you off fastest. Orgasms can not be forced. It comes when you feel safe in your body, when you are relaxed and when you allow it to happen. ⠀
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Touch your whole body, feel into sensations, send love to the areas you don’t like. ⠀
Try different kinds of touch⠀
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* Squeeze
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* Slap
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* Pinch
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* Massage
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* Airy touch
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* Rub
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* Stroke
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* Touch
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* Run your fingers
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* Nibble
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* Fire touch
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* Bite
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* Tickle
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* Go hard
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* Go soft
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* Be rough
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* Flowy touch
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* Be gentle
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* Play with the contrasts between different touches
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* Scratch
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* Twist and turn
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Touch new areas, feel if you can feel sensation move through your body and follow the pleasure and see where it leads you. ⠀
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During sex and self pleasure, stop think about what to do next and let your body lead you. ⠀
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Sex and self pleasure is so much nicer when we focus on pleasure. ⠀
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It doesn’t matter if you are hard, soft, wet… just be present. ⠀
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Explore your own or your partner’s body with curiosity. ⠀
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***(You can force orgasms and I know it’s a part of play for some but for most people when they are trying too hard to orgasm it will just be a mental or emotional blockage instead)