Whats happening in your body during arousal? This is your sexual response cycle.
Your sexual response cycle!
You know how I always talk about the importance of foreplay and how longer/better foreplay leads to more pleasurable sex.
These two posts will help you get better understanding of what’s happening in your body during arousal, foreplay and intimate moments.
When you are turned on and are having sex your body goes trough a sequence of emotional and physical changes that makes it possible and as enjoyable as possible to have sex or self pleasure. The sexual response cycle is split up to four phases from when you get turned on mentally or physically to you fall into a blissful mess after your sexual activity.
Learning and understand your own response cycle can help you to more fulfilling sex. It is also a quite powerful tool for us sex coaches to pinpoint the cause of any sexual concerns our clients might struggle with.
Understanding your own arousal phase and your own body can help you experience your first orgasm or teach you how to last longer in bed.
Everyone is different and people are experiencing the response cycle slightly different but this is what generally happens.
1. Excitement (When you start feel for sex, this stage could be minutes or hours)
?Heart rate speeds up and breathing is accelerating.
?For some the skin starts flushing
?Your body release more nitric oxide and more blood flow to your genitals
?Resulting in that clitoris swell and your inner lips get swollen,
? Erection if you have a cook.
?The Vaginal wall begin to swell and natural lubricant is produced
?Breasts get fuller and nipples harden
?Muscle tension increase
2. Plateau/Arousal (Everything feels extra nice now)
?Everything that happens during phase 1 is intensified
?Muscle tension keeps increasing
?Breathing, heart rate and blood pressure keeps increasing
?The Vagina keeps swelling and the walls turn into a deep purple colour
?The testicle can be withdrawn up to the scrotum
?Clitoris becomes more sensitive
?Your muscle contractions might lead to spasms in body parts like hands, feet and toes
3 Orgasm (You may or you may not orgasm, if not it’s all good and the sex can still be really amazing)
?Involuntary muscle contractions begin and become really intense
?Your heart rate, blood pressure and breathing hit their peak.
?Big increase of the bonding hormone oxytocin which make you feel pleasure and connection
?Massive release of sexual tension
?The muscles in the vagina contracts
?Rhythmic contractions of the muscles at the base of the pen*s could result in ejaculation of semen.
4. Resolution (Aftercare, snuggle, nap, fall asleep or go for round 2)
?The body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning and the colours, size and shape goes back to how it was before.
Slowing down during sex and self pleasure can help you recognise the different stages in your own arousal cycle.
Next time you are masturbating or are having sex, see if you can feel the different stages. Notice your heart, your breathing and the changes in your genitals. Have a look at your own or your partners genitals and see how they swell and the colour changes.
So it might just take 5 minutes for a woman to get wet but longer foreplay leads to more pleasurable penetration because the body gets enough time to go through the changes in the body.
Slow down and feel more!
Isn’t teasing and playing around the best anyway?
